10. Plan Far Ahead
You may have planned a calm evening at the movies, but if you see that this wild girl wants to go clubbing, make sure that you will not have any trouble getting into the night’s hot spots.
9. Watch What You Say
To quote Chris Rock, “a girl will decide within the first 30 seconds whether or not she will sleep with you.” If she intends on doing so, the only thing standing in the way is what you say. So, think twice and better yet, shut your trap, so she can open hers.
8. Focus On Her
Why do some men insist on asking women out, only to end up spending the entire evening talking about themselves? If you want a woman to fall for you, then show her you care about more than T&A. Ask her about work, family, friends, all the stuff women love talking about. But beware; you do not want to give her the impression that you are about to begin stalking your next victim.
7. Don’t Cross-Examine Her
If you want a first date to succeed, then you must master the art of communication. Don’t ask her close-ended questions (those that only require “yes,” “no,” or “I don’t know,” responses); instead, ask her open-ended questions to stimulate conversation and to let her know that you’re interested.
6. Keep Your Eyes On Her
Look at her, not yourself, and definitely not at the other fine looking women in the establishment.
Don’t be a show off know-it-all, there’s still more…
5. Don’t Show Off
If you have a flashy watch, a nice car, or expensive clothes, she will notice. While this may hurt your chances as much as it will help, the bottom line is that everything you do must be subtle. Do not flaunt your cash; you are not dating a hooker. Don’t accidentally lose your 18-karat diamond ring on the table; or at least make sure that it slips down her shirt.
4. Manage Expectations
Lower your expectations. Women get better looking depending on the number of drinks you have. Go in there expecting Shamu’s ugly cousin to show up and you will see that the girl is pretty cute. Expect an angel and I guarantee that a whale is what you’ll get.
3. Watch Out For The Psycho Factor
Not only on blind dates, but even on the first handful of dates, beware of everything she says and how she says it. Also, when you tell her that you like seeing other people and she confidently says, “Good, I AM other people,” tell her you’re going to the washroom and head out to the nearest exit.
2. Exit Strategy
Have your friends on stand by … if things are really going horribly, then you may want to ditch her — now that will get the message across.
1. Take Charge
If you want the night to go how you dreamed it would, then do not sit there and get old. Get up, be a big boy and take control. Anything else is futile. Oh yes, some women are very turned on by confident men, so you could end up scoring on all fronts.
Side Note: You only get one chance to make a first impression, so be very clean, make sure you shower, shave, and smell good. She might try something once, but if you were throwing back pickled onions stuffed with garlic cloves all night, then she just might pass you up, forever.